Why is there a question mark and not an exclamation point in the title of this post?
Because a few people have asked me lately whether they should continue saying Tehilim on my behalf or not. After all, it’s been over three years since the start of my journey.
I shall never forget the outpouring of love and prayer from acquaintances and people I will never know. There were prayer rallies all around the world, as well as mitzvah campaigns which were initiated by dear friends. And who could ever forget all of those wonderful people who dropped everything and ran to our assistance and support?
But now that I’m stable health wise – is there is still a need to keep it up? Do I still need people’s prayers?
Let me share with you a memory from my yeshiva days. For many years the entire yeshiva said Tehilim for one of the members of the Hanhala (administration – Rabbeim). He had undergone multiple organ transplants, and it was a very scary time. Now, for the first year or so we said Tehilim every morning after Shacharis (morning prayers). However, after that critical stage, we began to say Tehilim only a couple of times per week. Although he wasn’t as energetic nor as strong as he was before, we didn’t keep up the practice every single day.
Why not? Prayer always has an effect, and he could use all the help he could get!
As I understood it, Hashem desires full hearted urgency as the fuel for our prayers. Once prayer becomes routine and empty of meaning, the experience becomes worn out and flat. So we prayed for our dear Rebbe once in a while so we wouldn’t become complacent in the endeavor.
In addition, I would never ask for prayers in the first place. It feels a bit unusual to ask another person to pray for me. If it moves you and it feels fresh, I suppose you would have no other choice than to spill out your heart in pleading with Hashem to help me. On the other hand, if it becomes a scripted and expected prayer, perhaps you ought to consider praying on a less regular schedule.
I hope these words adequately address the question. Please let me know.